![]() ![]() You are essentially making the event bigger than it needs to be. More often than not, in the grander scheme of things, you are making a mountain out of a molehill. To keep thinking about what you could have done differently and what might have happened if a different set of circumstances had occurred just keeps rubbing salt in the wound. When you are in a run of bad luck, there is only one thing you can do, and that is to move forward. So if you find yourself in this self-blame state of mind, you must immediately take steps to take yourself out of it. It is no coincidence that successful people in both their personal and professional capacities are generally positive people who believe that things are going to get better and work out for the best, regardless of the decisions they have made. Negative energy will always attract negative energy. So it is no surprise that we begin to attract more of the same. We walk around all gloomy, with a very negative outlook on life, low confidence and low self esteem. This causes stress, anxiety and sleepless nights. We spend a lot of time and energy in this headspace. Then we begin to question ourselves on a more personal level: am I not good enough? Am I not deserving of good things? Am I doomed to fail? We begin questioning why this event took place: what could I have done differently, what events could have occurred that would have produced a different outcome. We stop moving forward and begin looking backwards. The Self-Blame Gameīut rather than letting go of the bad luck and moving on with a positive mindset that things will get better, we often enter the self-blame game. ![]() That truth, in itself, is usually enough to kick you into positive action and take control of your direction. Your version of bad luck might be someone else's version of a pretty normal day.īy and large, unless you die, or someone you know dies, or is diagnosed with some horrible illness, there is usually someone far worse off than yourself. Someone has to lose their job, someone has to break their leg, someone has to get a huge phone bill that they weren't expecting, someone has to miss a flight because they were stuck in a taxi, someone has to get their visa application refused. There are 7.6 billion people in the world. Of course, this gives rise to a belief in karma and some sort of spiritual retribution perhaps for past life wrongdoings, or wrongdoings that you have inadvertently committed in some way. When bad things keep happening, we question “why me”?Įven though you are trying to be a good person and do the right things in life, bad luck is following you around as if it was some sort of punishment. When we encounter bad luck, we immediately begin to question what we have done wrong to attract such bad luck into our lives. It's all in the mind.Īnd that is the thing about dealing with bad luck, and getting over it: it is all about mindset. ![]() You lose your phone, then get hit with an unexpected bill, and then fall over and bump your knee. There have been times on a two-string streak of bad luck where I end up hanging around waiting for the third to come along. It does often seem that way, too, though perhaps I have convinced myself of this theory. My mother always said that bad luck comes in bouts of three. Bad luck can be pretty difficult to cope with, particularly when it seems to be targeting you and no one else. ![]()
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